It can be hard to know when to suggest counselling to someone you care about. You might notice they seem different lately — more withdrawn, stressed, or unhappy — and wonder if extra support could help.
Counselling isn’t only for people in crisis. It can help anyone who feels overwhelmed, stuck, or unsure how to cope with what’s happening in their life.
Gentle Signs They May Be Struggling
You might notice:
- Ongoing sadness, worry, or irritability
- Pulling away from friends or family
- Changes in sleep or appetite
- Loss of interest in things they used to enjoy
- Increased stress, burnout, or emotional shutdown
- More conflict or distance in relationships
Big life events like grief, relationship problems, work stress, or major change can also make support helpful.
How to Talk About It
Try to raise the idea with kindness and care:
- Choose a calm moment
- Speak from concern, not criticism
- Use simple “I” statements
For example:
- “I’ve noticed you seem really stressed lately and I care about you.”
- “Would you be open to talking to someone about this?”
- “You don’t have to go through this on your own.”
Avoid pushing or telling them what they “should” do. Sometimes just planting the seed is enough.
If They’re Not Ready
That’s okay. You can still support them by listening, staying connected, and reminding them help is there when they’re ready.
When to Get Urgent Help
If your loved one talks about hurting themselves or feels unsafe, seek immediate help. In Australia, you can call:
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Beyond Blue 1300 22 4636
- Or 000 in an emergency
A Final Thought
Wanting to help someone you love shows care and courage. Counselling is not a sign of failure — it’s a step towards feeling better and coping more fully with life.
Sometimes the most helpful thing you can say is:
“You don’t have to do this alone.”
If you or someone you love would like to book a counselling session, please click here.