Identifying Your Top Five Values

Discovering Your Core: A Guide to Identifying Your Top Five Values

Our values are the guiding principles that shape our lives, influencing the decisions we make and the paths we choose. They reflect what is most important to us, serving as a compass that directs our actions and defines our character. Identifying your top five values can provide clarity and direction, helping you live a more authentic and purposeful life. In this blog post, we’ll explore a step-by-step process to help you uncover your core values.

1. Reflect on Your Past Experiences:

  • Begin by reflecting on past experiences that have been meaningful or impactful. Consider moments when you felt most fulfilled, proud, or aligned with your true self. These experiences can offer insights into the values that are most important to you.

2. Identify Your Role Models:

  • Think about individuals you admire or look up to. What qualities or values do they embody that resonate with you? Your role models can provide clues to the values that you hold in high regard.

3. Consider Your Passions and Interests:

  • Take note of the activities, causes, or topics that ignite a sense of passion or interest in you. What values are underlying these passions? For example, if you are passionate about environmental conservation, your values may include sustainability and stewardship.

4. Clarify Your Non-Negotiables:

  • Think about the values that are non-negotiable for you—the principles that you are unwilling to compromise on. These values are often deeply held and can offer valuable insights into your core values.

5. Prioritize Your Values:

  • Once you have identified a list of potential values, prioritize them based on their importance to you. Imagine you can only choose five values to guide your life— which ones would you choose? This exercise can help you narrow down your list to your top five values. You might also use a values tool to assist you such as Values Guide

6. Align Your Actions with Your Values:

  • Once you have identified your top five values, take a moment to reflect on how well your current actions and choices align with these values. Are there areas of your life where you could make changes to better align with your values?

7. Review and Revisit Regularly:

  • Values can evolve over time, so it’s important to review and revisit them regularly. Set aside time periodically to reflect on your values and make adjustments as needed. This ongoing process of self-discovery can help you stay true to yourself and live a life aligned with your values.


Identifying your top five values is a deeply personal and introspective process. It requires self-reflection, honesty, and a willingness to explore what truly matters to you. By taking the time to uncover your core values, you can gain clarity and direction, guiding you towards a more meaningful and purposeful life. Remember, your values are unique to you, so trust your instincts and embrace the values that resonate most deeply with your authentic

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